The internet is a fairly new invention that has revolutionized the world as we know it. Not only can we upload pictures and videos to share with others, but now we can talk to people across the world. Recently, I found out that you can buy groceries online and have them delivered without ever leaving your home. This is especially helpful for those workaholics or for those that don’t have enough hours in the day to accomplish all they have to do. Some lack access to the internet, but those that don’t might think “wow this is amazing”; others, however, may actually find it harming. Social networks have been increasing over the past several years with more and more people subscribing to them. What seems to explain this increase is that face-to-face interactions aren’t as feasible as they used to be, or rather, are not an efficient way of communicating with others. This being said, the internet as a whole – including social networks like MySpace and Facebook– have brought us closer together because it has no distance constrictions, it is time efficient, and it allows us to get to know a person on a deeper level.
Distance or relationships, no matter what kind, is always a deal breaker when these relationships are not properly maintained. Ellison, Steinfield & Lampe (2007) argue that “online interactions do not necessarily remove people from their offline world, but may indeed be used to support relationships and keep people in contact”. People are constantly moving either across the city or across the nation. In particular, college students are not only leaving home, but also their friends and social network. As their lives become busier seeing old friends or even talking to them on the phone becomes much harder. Social networks allow us to reconnect and keep up with our friends’ lives back at home.
Distance isn’t always a bad thing, however, since it may allow creating a network rich with information that you might not be aware of otherwise. Many people have hundreds of friends on these social networks that they probably haven’t met in person. Networking or having “weak ties” with people all around the world wouldn’t exist without the internet (Thompson, 2008) as such it brings us closer together to a diverse population. These “weak ties” or “connections” also “could have strong payoffs in terms of jobs, internships, and other opportunities” (Ellison et al, 2007) and we know how useful these things can be, especially with the way the economy has been. In an experiment (#6), we were to ask questions or for favors on our Facebook status and observe what would happen. I asked random questions such as “why do we celebrate the 5th of May?” and people whom I hadn’t talked to in a while commented on my wall, answering with detail. I also asked “where can I find cheap tickets to NY?” and some of my “weak ties” gave me great search engines online and even told me about their experience when they were there.
Time runs our lives. We, as a society, are always in a hurry, meeting deadlines or working, amongst other things; so when do we have free time for ourselves? The internet gives us the opportunity to have some sort of free time because it is fast, cheap, efficient and convenient. Facebook, for example, is used to “maintain offline relationships” suggesting that the internet will bring us closer together because it is instantaneous communication. In the real world it is often hard to find the time to do anything, so through the internet we can often make a relationship with someone that much closer. It also “facilitates new connections, in that it provides people with an alternative way to connect with others who share their interests or relational goals” (Ellison et al, 2007). With schoolwork, actual work, reading, and studying, the people we interact with are mostly people that we see in class. Rarely do we meet people outside of our daily spaces that might share common interest or hobbies. In another experiment (#4), we were to join an online forum, and so I joined a scrapbooking one. I love taking pictures, but it then becomes hard to organize them and put more meaning into them. The people in this forum gave me great ideas on how to categorize them and how to make it unique according to my own experience, as such, they serve as a kind of support network.
Online forums and social networks allow users to express and present themselves to the world as they would like to be seen. Thompson (2008) argues that updating your status on these social networks allows us to get a “sense [of] the rhythms of friends’ lives”’ thus forming a “portrait” of them, bringing us closer together. In fact for experiment #2, we did just that. At first I thought that people constantly updating their Facebooks was kind of annoying, but I never really thought about the importance of it. In fact, we do end up creating a “portrait” of the person and get a sense of what they are like and what they are not. Thompson (2008) talks about the impact that the newsfeed on Facebook has had and argues that it brings people closer together. These newsfeeds appear on our homepages and when we look at them, we get a sense of what the person is doing, feeling, or thinking. It also gives us “more things to talk about” the next time we see them.
What happens when we don’t see them or have that physical contact? Carter (2005) suggests that friendships in cyber city agree that “physical contact is not important in a friendship and that this escape from the real social world “is the route to more in-depth friendships.” Suggesting that the internet has no barriers and that it can even bring people closer together in intimate ways. They also state that these friendships “last” because “you are able to connect with people who are like yourself in new ways”. It seems simple, but there are caveats to watch out for when meeting new people online just like when you meet people in person.
In conclusion, the internet has brought people closer together because it has no distance constraints, it is time efficient and it allows us to get to know a person on a deeper level. It is important to note that while the internet allows information to be instantaneous and “connecting” with friends to be efficient, there can be no “real substitute for the physical contact” (Easter 2007). This suggests that “a person may become lonely and depressed from a lack of physical contact” (Easter, 2007). It is interesting to wonder about the future of the internet, what is going to come next? Will it be possible for the internet to be even faster or for resources to be even more readily available? Could we become so disengaged from the real world if things become that much easier and accessible? It is too early to tell, but what we do know is that the internet is a gateway to a world of knowledge that we are only beginning to uncover.\
Works Cited
Carter, D. (2005) ‘Living in virtual communities: an ethnography of human relationships in
cyberspace’, Information, Communication & Society, 8: 2, 148 — 167
Easter, J. (2007). Happiness and the internet. Retrieved from http://feesta.com/dissertation-Jeff-
final.pdf
Ellison, N.B., Steinfield, C, & Lampe, C. (2007). The Benefits of Facebook “friends”: social
capital and students’ use of online social network sites. Journal of computer-mediated communication, 12. Retrieved from http://jcmc.indiana.edu/vol12/issue4/ellison.html
Thompson, C. (2008, September 7). Brave new world of digital intimacy. Retrieved from
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/09/07/magazine/07awareness-t.html?_r=3&ref=technology&pagewanted=all
Week 2 Experiment: Updating Facebook status every two hours for a whole day.
Week 4 Experiment: Joining an online forum.
Week 6 Experiment: Asking questions or favors on my Facebook status.